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Za’marie 🕷️'s avatar

I feel as though we never fully appreciate our greatness until we give ourselves a break and look back at what we’d done. We become too accustomed to the great things we do and it becomes too normalized and blended into the backgrounds of our lives. This was really wonderful to read, you captured the reality of what it’s like to over criticize yourself and displayed it into text so explicitly. Isn’t it so crazy that the desire to avoid being judged by others does the reverse and creates an internalization of that judgment and criticism instead.

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Brendon Holder's avatar

this came to me at the right time! got to remember to give myself grace. the ‘work twice as hard but get half’ quote rocked me… i remember having that taped on my desk at my first office job. i wish i was nicer to myself then. the challenge is.. the strive for perfection likely isn’t the most healthy but it has yielded some incredible results. the marginalized mindset that was instilled into me by my parents, whether right or wrong, has been validated by where I’ve arrived and therefore the prophecy has become true… which only repeats the cycle. i don’t have a solution but this essay lets me know I’m not alone in this. I was up editing my novel as well… so your words hit right on time. Thank you!

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